Sexting is a the new flirting concept now especially among youths and teens and even young adults. The word is derived from sex and texting and it is a concept where mobile devices are used to send and receive sexually explicit messages.
This concept is gaining ground especially among the youth and is gradually finding its way into marriages. It can include a guy can taking pictures of his nudity, and sending it as MMS / image to his partner and vise versa. However, The scripture in Matt 5:28 says "I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart and Gal 5:21 says those that engage in this will not inherit the kingdom of God". Not only is it a sin going by this scripture, but it can be so embarrassing should someone look over your shoulder and see what you are looking at thereby causing lust. Some people have been caught sending these "embarrassing" and provocative messages as they were sent to people other than their spouse and it was not so palatable.
For example, a guy (Deacon) in his church wanted to sext his wife but mistakenly chose a group chat name belonging to some members of his church. Unfortunately, he didn't realize what had happened until a member of the group put a call across to him, but by that time, about 7 people in the group had seen the sext.
Some people are of the school of thought that it is n acceptable means of spicing sex lives among couples, but some feel otherwise because of the high risk of embarrassment associated with it. The question therefore is "Should Sexting be encouraged among married couples?".
Please share your thoughts.
7 comments:
As much as it's not out rightly a sin in marriages, it could be embarrassing. I cannot imagine someone spying my wife's nude picture as i look at it or I send an illegal pics to someone else. For me, it is a NO.
From the perspective of a christian, I would not subscribe to sexting not matter to intentions behind it. If we have to do all to the glory of God, it is hard to see how this achieves it. Besides, sexting moves the focus of loving or longing for your partner from the person to the body. I should be able to desire my wife not on the basis her body part.
In my opinion, i do not see a thing wrong with "sexting" if done with the consent of the other party, it takes a two to tango. Just as stated in your example, it can be so embarrassing when such sexting is sent to a wrong person.
The name of the game is be thou not careless with it.
Why do we watch romance/blue movies?
We can only plead God will give us the courage to do that which is right at all time.
A lot of people who engage in this practice take it as fun and why not?
whatever that is done in between two people who willfully consented to it should and must remain a private matter. Things shoould be done in moderacy. "Ile eni ni a ti n je ekute onidodo"
Medically a man's brain is almost 90% wired for sex, this is why a man reacts to things that are seen in the opposite sex.
I would think sexting might not be a bad idea or a sin for couples who live apart for economic reasons or work related challenges. I know men who will ask their wives to send daily images of their appearances. Few others would even ask a little more if you know what i mean.
I guess sexting is not particualrly a bad for as long as both man and woman agreed to use the medium. However, no one should fall this during courtship.
And just like one the comment above, it should be done with utmost care and couples who would do this must always safeguard their phones.
I beg, do all that would keep your relationship intact. I shared so much with my hubby (i know the parts of my frame that he would love to see 24/7) when he was in Sokoto while i was in Lagos for 4 months. abi ki ni weere o ma se to ba ni ohun o le pariwo"
It could be encouraged among couples who can handle it with maturity.
These our mobile phones come handy to make life a little easier for everyone. Between the 60s and 80s, ladies go to photo studios to take pictures they would inturn enveloped and send to their partners but now that we have ready mades studios in our hands, we should go on soun.
Cheers.
In my opinion, there is nothing wrong in this as long as its done amongst married people. After all you cannot commit adultery in your heart by looking lustfully at your wife or husband.
It can only be embarrassing when partners are careless and lack self control. Self control tells you that its for your eyes only, hence you guard the pictures/media and delete as necessary.
The example given about the Deacon is only embarrassing because of our society and the image we want to create as being more righteous than the next person. He was sexting to his wife and not a girl outside(he is a faithful husband). He was trying to spice up his love/sex life(he is a man that cares about the feelings of his wife and understands the place of sex\intimacy in marriage). Yes, he is wrong to send it to a church group, but he is not wrong to want to try to reach his wife. Who know if the couple have been having sex\intimacy issues or have been apart for a long time.
It is the same church that is condemning him for sexting his wife that will also condemn him if his marriage collapses or he cheats. The man is fighting for his marriage and that is more important than a perceived image.
Everything should be done with self control and wisdom. Married couples' sex life is their business and what they do to keep the fire burning is also their business.
Post a Comment