Submissive Wife

 

Hello People,

Long time. Once again my apologies for all the MIAs, have been trying to keep body, soul and spirit together. How was your Valentine's celebration? Trust it was cool. I believe you. But we should remember, it's not only on 14th Feb that we should treat our partners oo, it should be a way of life.

 Today we want to briefly look at one of the virtues of a woman, that is, Submission.

 Submission is the act of yielding to or accepting the will or authority of another person. We have learnt over and again that God created the woman to be a help meet to her husband who is the head of the family by God's design, which implies that for her to be a help meet, she must be willing to submit to his authority.

This is so important in building a successful relationship / marriage, so much so that God in his manual told us by Apostle Paul in Eph 5:22-23 that Wives should submit to their husbands as they would unto God, why? Because the man is the head of the house, just as Christ is the head of the church. There is nothing any woman can do to that. You either accept it or you're in deference to God's purpose. Colossians 3:18 also buttress that fact, that wives are expected to submit to their husband. 1 Peter 3:1 also encourages wives to submit to their husbands even if he is an unbeliever, so that he can be turned to the Kingdom by the wife's godly lifestyle.

God's idea is clear as far as the subject matter is concerned. The wife is not supposed to be in competition with the husband, rather, she is expected to be willing to give up her 'rights' in respect to / regard for her husband for as long as his wish is not contrary to the word of God. Yes, there could be times when it is a bit difficult to submit especially when she has a contrary opinion about an issue, but even so, she can carefully and respectfully pass her message across without coming across as rude or not submissive.

Ehen, men, don't start saying, 'I told you so'. Submission doesn't equate foolishness or weakness, it is a service to God. In God's plan like we said, Christ is the head of the man. The man is expected to receive instruction from God and pass the same to the woman. Like we have in the Garden of Eden, God gave the instruction on the permissible fruits to be eaten to Adam who expectedly should communicate to the wife Eve. Therefore, as she submits and obeys him, she is indirectly submitting to God.

However, Submission doesn't come as easy as it sounds. It doesn't jump on people, it is learnt over time. A woman who will submit to her husband must have learnt over the years to submit to the parents for instance, constituted authorities perhaps in school or at work. Submission requires decisiveness, more importantly, when there is a relationship with God, it won't be difficult to achieve, because it will just be an act of obedience to one of God's instruction / commandments. 

Now, what do I stand to gain when I submit to my husband?

Divine guidance : For as long as your husband is able to receive from God, it is that same instruction that he passes to you. So you don't make wrong choices. 

Peace : When you submit , the home is peaceful. You and hubby are not most of the times at logger heads which can lead to domestic violence and sometimes outright death. When there is peace at home, you long to go back home when you are out.

Love : It is almost a given that a husband whose wife is submissive will reciprocate with deep love and affection. The same is also applicable to the children, they will love her and call her blessed. Once there is love in the relationship, you have almost everything.

Joy : Because there is Peace at home as a result of the submissive act, you are happy and joyful. You have no fear or worry. 

Energy saving : Conflicts and quarrels which can result from lack of submission are energy consumers. The strength you would have used to care for the family, enjoy each other's company or even pray is being expended to fight and do all sort and this can result into something more terrible like high blood pressure and heart attack and so on. 

Above all, bear in mind that you are created to be his help meet and not his competitor, so you don't always act in competition.

So much said already , remember wisdom builds a house and understanding establishes it.

Till next week, wish you a fruitful week.